Lying and Submission

If you don't have honesty in a relationship you don't have anything, because you can't have trust.

Verses on the topic of lying:

 

"Whoever wants to enjoy a long life must keep his tongue from lying."

 

"Truthful lips endure forever, but a lying tongue is but for a moment."

 

"There are six things that the Lord hates, seven that are an abomination to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood...."

 

"A false witness will not go unpunished, and he who breathes out lies will perish."

 

http://www.openbible.info/topics/lying

 

So what do you do if a spouse lies?  Confront them about it, firmly.  Lying is never ok. 

 

In relation to that, the topic of submission is a much debated topic: wives submit to you husbands. 

 

If a father was beating his kids should they submit to him?  No. 

 

Some husbands want the power of being submitted to but not the responsibility it takes to be worthy of being submitted to. 

 

I think in order for a wife to have to submit the husband has to love her and act in a loving manner towards her.  The command in Eph. 6 is to BOTH husbands and wives, not just wives.  "Wives submit to your own husbands." and "husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her."

 

If the husband is out for only his own interests and not caring at all about his wife at the moment, she should not at that time submit to him.  That would be co-dependency.  

 

To allow him to be rewarded with submission when he is not acting in a loving way toward her is co-dependent and enabling bad behavior.